Romance in Everyday Living

Flowers, cards, candy, love letters poetry, candlelight dinners, walks in the moonlight, holding hands~~~~all romantic notions, thoughts and ideas...but what happens to romance after the commitment is made? Romance is used in dating to express thoughts feelings and joy with our chosen partner. Romance is more than just gifts, tokens and shared moments alone. Too many times romance is left behind after dating, only used for special occasions. Romance is an expression of giving and an affirmation of the love shared between two people, giving of one's self and exposing our vulnerabilty, our deeper more sensitive nature. appreciating the person in your life and showing it. Oftentimes we forget about the romance in a relationship in the daily business of work and the hurried pace of life today. We take for granted the companionship and feelings of our partner. True, while time spent alone can be very romantic, you don't have to be alone with the person to be romantic and intimate. It's the world you share with your lover even in a crowd or the every day hustle and bustle of work, careers, kids and school.

*S* Care to dance My Love? Harvest Moon

Passing each other by like ships in the night during the morning rush of showers and dressing? While your partner is in the shower..write "I Love You" in the steam on the mirror.

Use separate cars to go to work? Try this~~ spray a little of his/her favorite cologne on a cotton ball, and place it under the visor in the car, or near one of the vents. As the vehicle warms or cools and the air circulates, the scent of your cologne will be in the air. Scent can be a very powerful mood enhancer as well as keep you on his/her mind.

Have a home computer? Use the scrolling marquee screensaver to tell your love you're thinking of them. When the screen saver comes on.....there is your message scrolling across the screen.

Make use of the internet and email. You can send just quick "thinking of you" emails or messages, a greeting card just because. Some of the most romantic and cherished "love letters" I have are emails from my love. While others may not find them as beautiful as I, to me they are the most beautiful, romantic, eloquent messages ever written.

Have an answering machine or voice mail? Leave short messages for your partner. Some voice mail boxes allow the set up of individual boxes. Set one up for each person, that way you can leave more personal messages without the kids or anyone else listening.

If you're adventerous send an erotic letter or suggestive email. (Although don't send this type to a work email...some employers frown on that and have rules regarding personal usage of systems and you might give a good laugh to the tech guys in systems admin as it goes through the system for routing.)

With text mesaging now on cell phones....make use of it. A simple I love u....U look gr8 (you look great) can go a long way.

Touch is a very important communicator. As you walk through a room, reach out and simply touch your partner. Simply brush your hand across a cheek, pause a moment with your hand on a shoulder, stroke their hair. Touch conveys warmth, caring and love without saying a word. SMILE~~enough said

Keep a supply of chocolate kisses. Send one or two, more if you like, with your partner if they have to be away overnight. Attach a note to it, telling them each one is a kiss from you~~~ even if they don't care for chocolate....it's the idea. Or try "keepsake kisses". , little crystal "kisses" in a keepsake bag.

Little hand written notes left on the pillow, in a pocket, tucked in a lunch, placed in a drawer, even stuck to the steering wheel or mirror of the car telling your partner how special they are. Sticky "post it" notes are wonderful for this and they come in colors and with designs now.

The U.S. Postal service can be your messenger..send a card snail mail, or a hand written note or love letter. You don't have to be Shakespeare or Pablo Neruda, your own words, spoken from the heart are the best.

Remember flirting? You flirted a little (okay so maybe you didn't) to capture their attention. Flirt with your partner on occasion. It's fun!

Hug your someone at least 6 times a day. Hugging lets them and you know someone is there, they care, life and moments are shared.

Be spontaneous! Don't wait for an anniversary or special occasion....got an idea or inspiration for romance? Go with it!

Take a walk together..just enjoy each other's company. Enjoy a slow dance in the living room or in the moonlight when all is quiet late at night.

After a bad day, a long day or just any day~ offer to give a back rub or massage. Run a bubble bath. *S* Share a bubble bath....and don't forget the mop.